There are times when co-parenting is easy. There are also times when you wonder what you're going to do to get back on the right track.
Making one co-parenting mistake after the next will only complicate your situation. Here are four that you want to avoid:
- Getting upset: It's hard not to get upset with your ex-spouse, especially if you went through a bad divorce. However, if you're always losing your temper, it'll only make matters worse.
- Neglecting to communicate: Even if you don't get along, you need to communicate to ensure the well-being of your children. A big part of successful co-parenting is keeping an open line of communication, whether it's through text messages, email or face to face visits.
- Putting your children in the middle: Don't tell your children bad things about their other parent. Don't ask your children who they like better. If your ex-spouse is doing this, kindly ask them to stop.
- Fighting in front of your children: If you disagree on something (and you probably will), find a private time and place to discuss it. Doing so in front of your children can put them in the middle of your argument.
With so many potential mistakes lurking, you need to be careful when co-parenting. If both you and your ex are on the same page, it's much easier for everyone to get along.
Conversely, if your ex doesn't care about doing things the right way, you may continually run into custody related issues. In this case, you need to learn more about your legal rights, all the while doing whatever you can to keep the peace.