Children have a lot of questions when they find out that their parents are going to divorce. Many of these questions might revolve around whether they are responsible for split or not. As a parent, you will need to assure the children that the divorce was a personal decision between you and your ex. We know that this might be difficult but you need to work toward trying to help them understand what is going on.
While this is certainly challenging, it might help you work with your ex to come up with a plan for parenting the children. Through this, you might be able to present a united front that helps the children feel more secure. Remember, they are having to learn to live a life that is completely different from anything they've ever known.
Part of the parenting plan should cover basic ground rules that everyone will follow, such as how the child exchanges will be handled. The more detailed the plan, the better your children might fare. One thing that having a detailed agreement does is takes the guesswork out of things. Since children need consistency, this can make them feel more grounded.
It isn't always easy to get the terms of the parenting plan worked out. There will likely be a lot of negotiations that you will have to work through. If you can keep a positive attitude and keep your children's interests in mind, you will likely find that this is much easier. We are here to help you try to get things settled as quickly and easily as you can.