The ups and downs of your marriage have taken a toll on your personal well-being. Although you and your family have benefited from being part of an affluent household, you have determined that there have been more downturns in your marriage. The negatives outweigh any positives.
Before you take the necessary steps to file for divorce, you must take a serious introspective look at yourself. While doing so, it is crucial to ask yourself some important questions, and then you have to answer them as honestly as you can.
The happiness and children factors
When considering a divorce, here are some of the key questions you need to ask and answer:
- Will I be able to maintain the same lifestyle I had?: For the most part, you likely may be able to do so since you are from an affluent household. A prenuptial or postnuptial agreement as well as alimony may play important aspects in this issue. But there may be certain sacrifices that you will have to make. What will become of the country club membership? The twice annual trips abroad?
- Will I be happy on my own?: There may be some ups and downs adjusting to life after a divorce. You may find out that your friends were really your ex-spouse’s friends, so this marks an opportunity for you to seek other social acquaintances. And maybe now that you are on your own, you will be able to explore things in life that you always wanted to do.
- Am I capable of taking care of day-to-day tasks that were my spouse’s responsibility?: You may need to be a quick study on certain things such as working with financial advisers regarding investments, learning about tax matters, scheduling activities for your children and even knowing how to prepare your children’s favorite meals.
- How will this divorce affect my children?: There will be an adjustment period so make certain to give each child enough time to absorb what has happened. Each child likely will deal differently with divorce. There will be confusion, uncertainty, sadness and anger. Talk with them and take care of them.
You understand that significant changes will occur in your life if you file for divorce. Be prepared to deal with these changes and understand that a time of transition will eventually make way for a fresh new start that may take some work.