Reworking your life after a divorce is often one of the more difficult components of the process. If you have kids with your ex-spouse, the likelihood that you will be in a joint custody situation is high.
In the majority of joint custody living arrangements, the children move between the houses of the parents according to a custody schedule. However, this arrangement does not work for everybody. According to Psychology Today, many families are turning to “nesting” due to its many benefits.
How does it work?
Rather than the children moving back and forth between parental households, with nesting the children stay in one house. Instead, it is the parents that do the moving in and out of the family household according to the custody schedule.
This is where the moniker “nesting” comes from. The movement of the parents in and out of the family home mimics that of parent birds taking care of babies who stay in the same nest.
Who does it benefit?
Many older children balk at moving frequently between houses. Particularly if the children are close to high school graduation, some divorcing couples choose to maintain the family house and nest until the children graduate. Then, they can dissolve the family home with much less strife.
In other situations, monetary concerns make nesting the best option. If you live in a high cost of living area, it is possible that neither you nor your ex-spouse can afford to live in the neighborhood on a single income. Nesting allows the children to stay in the same school district with the same friends.