When you decide to get a divorce, you may feel ongoing feelings of frustration and anger towards your ex. These feelings can make it difficult to communicate with your former spouse as you work through divorce proceedings related to child custody, property division and other issues.
According to the Institute for Family Studies, the divorce rate in the U.S. is at a 50-year low, but many couples still decide to end their marriages. If you have chosen to move forward with divorce, the following tips can help you and your ex effectively communicate.
Avoid speaking when upset
You and your ex may engage in trivial arguments during divorce proceedings. To keep these arguments at a minimum, go into every divorce-related proceeding as calmly as possible. If you feel angry or upset, save talking to your ex for another time.
Stay away from extra communication
Your ex may try and reach out to you on a regular basis about issues related to your divorce and other topics. Put parameters for talking to your former spouse in place during your divorce and do not feel pressured to respond to communications right away.
Take your time
If your ex sends you an email, a text message or another inquiry, remember that you do not have to respond to every message. Take the time you need to collect your emotions and form an objective response.
During the divorce process, you will likely not be able to avoid speaking with your former spouse entirely. Knowing how to effectively communicate can help you protect your interests during your divorce and help you move forward once you finalize a settlement.